Something that might even be worse than actual pain itself, is the dread that you are going to be in pain sometime (real) soon.
When you have pelvic pain, or any chronic (pain) condition for that matter, you can find yourself in this scenario over and over again. When faced with inevitable pain, most people would prefer to just get it over and done with, according to a study. But for people with chronic pain, this is not that simple. We are often not able to predict exactly when and where the pain is going to hit us, and even if we do, we are unable to just ‘get it over and done with’ as if we’re having a flu shot, because our pain can’t be regulated in that sense.
This is of course incredibly exhausting and can cause all sorts of different emotional reactions, like anger, anxiety, or stress, which can have a significant impact on our lives and the people around us.
So, how do we cope with this?
Distraction. The best thing to do could possibly be to distract yourself to try and prevent yourself from thinking about what’s ahead of you. Keep busy at work, try some new recipes, go for an #endowalk, watch a movie, clean your house, or go shopping. Whatever it takes to stop your mind from wondering!
Exercise. Exercise promotes circulation and releases endorphins, which are chemicals manufactured in your brain. They are not only pain-relieving, but also give you that ‘feel good’ feeling, which is just what you need right now! Read more on how being active can benefit you here.
Relax. Yes, we know, this is easier said than done! However, so true though. Your body and mind will be able to cope much better with the added stress and anxiety if you are chilled out. Meditate, have a massage, do some yoga, or just have some extra sleep if you can, and keep your body and mind as relaxed as possible. Still feeling anxious? Tips can be found in my recent blog Tips on How to Cope with Anxiety.
Ask for Support and Understanding. Let the people around you know you may not be yourself and explain why, if you’re comfortable doing so. No, this is not an excuse to be rude, but when you tell people what is going on, at least they may not misinterpret any unexpected mood swings or outbursts for anything it’s not. You may even want to ask for some emotional support; as far as we’re aware, an extra chat or cuddle has never done anyone any harm. Just talking about your feelings may make you feel better already!
Let us know – what do you do to cope with the anticipation of pain?